Question about beauty? PLEASE READ!!?

In our society we prize individuality, we prize freedom and the ability to be master of our self. Yet, everyday I see the absurdities of beauty. I see men captivated and drawn away from their own jobs (including my self) without a care of what the boss thinks. We simply stare, taking in every body part for our selves to observe and take pleasure in. It clearly seems we are overpowered by beauty. We are mastered by it and gravitate towards it. Sometimes people seem immovable in their efforts to reach a person or thing they find beautiful. Families are destroyed because they desperately want more beauty, as if there is not enough of it for any one person. A father or mother abandons their children to wild excursions with "beautiful" people. Affairs and adultery, because the feelings beauty invoke in us are so overpowering that we act on them. and molestations occur from such things as well. Children demoralized, and women conquered by men who seem to need as much as air. Women spend hours adorning themselves, smiling, waving, teasing all to appear beautiful. Obviously beauty is highly important, so much so that we clearly seem to controlled by it and its demands. How does this effect our notion of being free and individuals in society a society that values it as much as it does beauty. Do they collide and seem incompatible? Also, is beauty fair? What I mean is this: It doesn't seem, from what I've said, that I choose to want this or that person to beautiful; rather, their beauty moves me; their beauty is imposed upon my eye and "boom" something happens (strong, moving emotions) to me that I want to give up all that I am doing to have that beautiful thing. Is this not scary? It doesn't seem that I have a choice to want the beautiful thing, not even a choice in the matter of whether the person is beautiful or not. I feel so inferior to it and it commands me, and trying to fight is oh so painful. I loose. It is fair? Am I free to NOT want beauty anymore? Think about that.