What would you do: What if your wife told you that she was in love with another guy but wants work it out?

It's totally natural to want to blame the other guy for this but he is only partially to blame. My husband's ex wife did this very same thing while he was deployed overseas. What you need to do is to put your wife (soon to be ex if your smart) in check. She is still lying to you. Forget about getting revenge on the other guy. You would have a more profound effect on him if you called him on the phone and had a little talk with him. Now I usually don't agree with getting revenge on someone because I know that Karma will take care of that for me but in the case I would go after your wife. She is a total ***** for having an emotional affair with someone when she knew damn well that you couldn't be there. It would be different if you weren't there for her because you didn't care but you were deployed. How can you accept her reason for doing this to you. She screws around and then to justify what she did she blames it on you? That is what us women call emotional blackmail and guys always fall for it. I think you should wait to approach her until she is depressed about her secret lover getting married and then kick her while she is down. If she really feels like he is her soul mate then she is totally in love with him and his recent marriage should devastate her. This is when you let her have it and tell her she isn't worth your time. I would also tell as many people as possible about what she has done. I hope you realize that she is an attention and cannot ever be trusted no matter how much counseling she gets. The fact of the matter is she is still lying to you and everyone around you. Fu*k Her.